How to Use These Cards
- In a crisis: Search for your situation or scroll to the relevant category
- For caregivers: Bookmark cards you use most often
- For professionals: Share this URL with families you support
- For mobile access: Add this page to your phone's home screen for quick access
What Caregivers Are Saying
"I was standing in the kitchen at 2am, completely overwhelmed because Mom wouldn't take her pills. I pulled up these cards on my phone and it told me exactly what to say. For the first time in weeks, she took her medication without a fight."
"As a hospice social worker, I share these cards with every family I support. They fill the gap between our visits — giving caregivers real words and real steps when they need them most."
"My husband has Alzheimer's and some days I just can't think straight. These cards don't judge me, they just help. The 'success' section reminds me that surviving the moment IS enough."
Frequently Asked Questions
Are these cards really free?
Yes, completely free. All 122 cards are available right here with no account, no email, and no paywall. We believe caregivers in crisis deserve immediate help.
Do I need the book to use these cards?
No. These cards work on their own. However, the book After the Long Goodbye provides the full context, deeper strategies, and personal stories behind each card. Many caregivers find the book helps them understand why these approaches work.
Can I add these cards to my phone's home screen?
Yes! You can create a shortcut that makes these cards accessible like an app:
For iPhone (Safari):
1. Open this page in Safari
2. Tap the Share button (square with arrow pointing up) at the bottom
3. Scroll down and tap 'Add to Home Screen'
4. Tap 'Add' in the top right
5. The icon now appears on your home screen for quick access
For Android (Chrome):
1. Open this page in Chrome
2. Tap the three-dot menu in the top right
3. Tap 'Add to Home screen' or 'Install app'
4. Tap 'Add' or 'Install'
5. The icon now appears on your home screen
Note: This creates a shortcut to the web version. You'll still need internet to use the cards. When we launch the full mobile app with offline access, we'll notify everyone on our update list.
For iPhone (Safari):
1. Open this page in Safari
2. Tap the Share button (square with arrow pointing up) at the bottom
3. Scroll down and tap 'Add to Home Screen'
4. Tap 'Add' in the top right
5. The icon now appears on your home screen for quick access
For Android (Chrome):
1. Open this page in Chrome
2. Tap the three-dot menu in the top right
3. Tap 'Add to Home screen' or 'Install app'
4. Tap 'Add' or 'Install'
5. The icon now appears on your home screen
Note: This creates a shortcut to the web version. You'll still need internet to use the cards. When we launch the full mobile app with offline access, we'll notify everyone on our update list.
Can I save these cards or access them offline?
Currently, these cards require an internet connection. You can bookmark this page in your browser for quick access. We're working on a mobile app that will include offline access - if you'd like to be notified when it launches, sign up for updates at the bottom of this page.
Will you add more cards in the future?
Yes! We're constantly adding new crisis cards based on caregiver feedback. The situations you face help us create cards that matter. If there's a caregiving challenge you wish had a card, please share it in the feedback section at the bottom of this page.
Can I print these cards?
Absolutely. You can print individual cards by expanding the one you need and using your browser's print function. Many caregivers print their most-used cards and keep them posted where they need quick access.
How were these cards created?
These cards are based on real caregiving experiences documented in the book After the Long Goodbye. Each card was designed to be read and used in under 30 seconds - because when you're in a crisis moment, you don't have time to read a chapter. They provide specific words to say and actions to take right now.
Can I share these cards with other caregivers?
Please do! Share this link with anyone who's supporting someone through depression, decline, or difficult transitions. The more caregivers who have access to immediate crisis support, the better. You can also share individual card links if you want to point someone to a specific situation.
What if I need more help than these cards provide?
These cards are emergency tools for specific moments - not replacements for professional support. If you or your loved one are in immediate danger, call 911 or your local crisis line. For ongoing support, please consult with healthcare professionals, therapists, or support groups. The book After the Long Goodbye also includes resources for finding additional help.
Is a mobile app coming?
Yes, we're developing a mobile app that will give you faster access, offline functionality, personalized favorites, and additional features based on caregiver feedback. Want to be notified when it launches and have input on what features matter most? Sign up for updates at the bottom of this page.
How can I support this resource?
The best way to support this work is to share it with other caregivers who need help. If you've found these cards valuable and have read the book After the Long Goodbye, leaving an honest review on Amazon helps other families discover this resource. You can also share your caregiving experiences and suggestions - your feedback helps us create better tools for everyone.